The minute my grandmother laid eyes on me she turned to my mother and said: “She’s been here before.” From the moment I entered the world with my big brown eyes, I‘ve been observing it and thinking about it and feeling it — all of it.
And while there have been times where I’ve wondered what it would be like to be someone other than me, times when I wished just for a day I could stop thinking and feeling so much, I wouldn’t change being a deep soul for anything — even if it does throw up some unique…
If you’re someone who thinks and feels deeply, then you’ve probably heard one or two of these before:
And my personal favourite:
“It must be exhausting being you”
Why yes, it is, thank you for reminding me!
It’s not easy being a deep thinker and feeler in a world that’s largely content with superficial chit-chat. A world where most people would rather poke their eyes out than feel their feelings, let alone talk about them.
Us reflective souls are in the minority…
A lot of us spend our lives in hiding and it’s not hard to understand why. In a world that favors superficial thinking and suppressing emotions, living life as a highly sensitive person can feel risky. As a child, the true essence of who you are radiated out of you as brightly and unapologetically as the sun shines on the earth. But somewhere along the line, between the kid you were and the adult you are, you learned that to be loved and accepted, you had to hide.
It didn’t happen all at once, it was subtler than that. A…
Imagine if you decided to hike the Appalachian Trail with just the clothes on your back and a few protein bars stuffed into your pocket. There you are at the start of your big adventure wearing your new insulated hiking gear and clutching your favorite peanut butter power bar, but you have nothing else. No map, no compass, no tent or sleeping bag, just a desire to make it to your end destination and a couple of snacks that are supposed to give you the fuel to get there.
Best case scenario? You’re rescued before you can do too much…
Have you ever written something you thought was great, only to look at it with fresh eyes the next morning and realize that not only was it not great, but it was a long way from even being good?
That’s what just happened to me. I wrote something I thought was great and it was rejected. So right now, as I sit here typing this, I’m eating the biggest, fattest piece of humble pie you’ve likely ever seen in your life. Seriously, it’s that big!
And you know what I’m thinking as I sit here munching away? Thank goodness that…
Academic intelligence is everything. At least that’s the message that was likely fed to you while you were at school. Get good grades and you’re set. There’s just one small problem — they didn’t bank on you and I figuring out that it was all a giant ruse.
Because here’s the thing: academic intelligence can only get you so far.
Sure, it might get you a job. Maybe it will help you make more money. But if research and our own life experiences have taught us anything, it’s that even those arguments stand on shaky ground.
Now don’t get me…
The other day I got asked a question and for a brief moment, all I could feel was an ache in my heart as I struggled to find the words to answer it.
“Do you think the pairing of emotional opposites can work?”
It wasn’t the question itself that made my heart hurt, it was everything unspoken that came wrapped up in those ten words, which required so much more unpacking than a simple yes or no answer.
Because deep down, it felt like what this person was really asking me was:
“Is there a way that I can stay…
You’ve been through a lot in your life and I have a feeling you’ve had more than your fair share of challenges and loss. I bet you’ve kept a lot of it to yourself too, maybe because you didn’t want to feel that you were burdening others or perhaps because you wanted to protect them.
And then there’s the fear — the fear that you’re not allowed to talk about it for too long, the fear that people will feel uncomfortable around your grief, the fear that there’s something wrong with you if you’re not able to quickly ‘get over…
For many years, I was a serial dabbler when it came to meditation. I’d go all-in for a few months, usually when I was finding life challenging, and then when I felt able to cope again, I’d give it up.
I knew meditation helped me, and to a certain extent I even enjoyed my daily practice during those tough times, but there were also a lot of things about it that frustrated me:
Turning off the TV can’t possibly change your life for the better — or can it?
That’s the question I set out to answer two months ago and I wasn’t prepared for what I would find — or should I say, what would find me.
Sure, I knew that turning off the TV wasn’t going to do me any harm, but what I didn’t know was just how much good was going to come from an experiment that seemed both insignificant and ridiculous.
But I was desperate and willing to try anything, so after being inspired by Cal Newport's book…