Let me ask you something.
Do you ever struggle to show up in the world as your true self?
I don’t know about you but I often feel this disconnect between who I am on the inside and how I live my life.
I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, which is why I’m so keen to get your take on it.
We live in a world that teaches us to live masked and armoured lives. …
Three weeks ago, I received a text message from my ex-partner. It went something like this:
“Hi Kathryn. I hope this message finds you well and doesn’t come as too much of a disruption. I’m going through a hard time right now and I’m really struggling. I was wondering if we could chat sometime? I totally understand if you don’t want to.”
After 18 months of no contact, seeing his name pop up on my phone made time stand still for a moment.
It felt a bit like staring at the lid of Pandora’s Box. …
It was a very surreal moment. After having no contact for 18 months there I was, sat in my former home, holding my ex-partners hand while he cried.
Life sure can throw us some curveballs.
While it was weird to find myself there with him, I hadn’t hesitated. When he called to say he was struggling and needed someone to be with him, I went.
He was having thoughts of taking his own life. He had a plan and the night before he’d almost gone through with it. I don’t mess around with that sort of thing. …
Busting a gut in your relationship but it’s still not where you want it to be? There’s nothing more frustrating than giving something your all and feeling like it doesn’t seem to be moving the needle even a smidgen in a positive direction.
Maybe you make your partner chicken soup when they’re sick, do the dishes when they don’t have time, fill up the gas tank in their car when you notice it’s running close to empty and make their lunch when you know they have a big day at work.
And yet, while they appreciate what you do, it doesn’t seem to bring the two of you any closer. …
When my sister and I were little we loved picking dried dandelions and blowing on the seeds to figure out what time it was.
Even now, at the age of 37, I still do it. I love the whimsy and playfulness of it all but it’s more bittersweet these days. Now, instead of both of us blowing them and laughing, I do it for both of us.
My baby sister died almost nine years ago at the age of 25 and even today as I write these words, so many dandelion clock hours down the line, I can feel the lump in my throat and the tears filling my eyes. …
Admit it, reading that subtitle has you craving ice-cream right now doesn’t it? If you’re going to crack a tub open then I highly recommend pistachio, bit of an outlier flavor-wise I know but you haven’t lived until you’ve tried it.
I’m guessing you didn’t come here for advice on what kind of ice-cream you should be eating though so let’s move this banana split along.
Most of us want a rockstar relationship. It’s unlikely that your teenage dreams involved one day having a relationship that was just ‘meh’. You want magnificent and rightly so, that’s what you deserve.
I love writing about relationships. Mainly because my own have taught me such a lot and I want to share those learnings to help others. And also because I find people so fascinating. Often we do the exact opposite of what will get us the things we say we want. Go figure. …
That’s right, you want a relationship so solid that rocks will be coming to you for advice on how to keep it together.
And let’s be honest, who doesn’t want to give those heavyweights a run for their money?
I’m not sure there’s many people out there who would say they don’t want to improve their relationship with their partner in some way.
But, as with anything, there are always exceptions and if that’s you then the good news is you don’t have to read any further! Instead, you get to sit back (on a rock maybe?), sip cocktails and watch the sunset over the ocean. …
If ‘Should I Stay or Should I Go’ has become less a song by The Clash and more your own personal anthem then you’re in the right place.
Whether it’s a job that isn’t in alignment with your values, a friendship that’s draining you, a relationship that makes you feel like less of who you are, or a place you’ve outgrown, analysis paralysis can leave you feeling unsure of which way to go.
It’s normal to feel stuck. You aren’t, but it can feel that way.
The doors to the cages we willingly hop into are always open but over time even situations that are uncomfortable can feel safe enough that we become unable to see the open door. And even when we finally do, the thought of venturing out into the vast unknown can feel so scary that we become paralyzed. …
We all have the potential to be great leaders. It doesn’t matter if you’re the CEO of a multimillion dollar company, deliver mail, run a cafe, or are a stay at home parent. You have the potential to lead in your own unique way.
And yet in spite of all the potential we have to do things differently, the world continues to be off balance. Far too many managers and far too few leaders.
Sadly, many people lack the self awareness to be able to see that what they proudly call leadership is in fact management. That’s why our cities and towns are full of poorly run organisations and businesses that are packed to the rafters with unhappy employees. …
It sounds counterintuitive to suggest that selfishness could be the key to relationship success given that most of us have been raised to do the opposite.
I know I was.
I should start by saying that I was very blessed to hit the parental jackpot. My folks are pretty outstanding human beings who have weathered a lot together during their 40-years of marriage.
But without being aware of it, through observing her I learnt from my Mum that being selfless and giving everything you have to everyone else was the secret to being a good human being.
And I carried that into my relationships with my ex-partners. …